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I was listening to a podcast while driving to my forest and the psychologist talked about number 1 thing that destroys relationship, trust and that essence of love.

People often speak about betrayal as if someone deliberately violated another person. Yet in reality, people tend to act according to their own inner impulses and desires. They move toward what they feel drawn to, even when that movement conflicts with the agreements they once made. When someone hides the truth, it usually reflects something deeper than simple deception. Often it means they do not trust that the relationship can hold that truth without punishment, rejection, or emotional collapse. Honesty requires an environment where a person believes their words will be heard, contained, and processed rather than immediately judged.

The dangerous trap of “I gave my word”, when the false self makes irreversible choices... and sometime clarity comes when it is really too late.. This is my attempt to explore the false self, loyalty traps, and why some life decisions carry irreversible consequences. Learn how to recognize when a “clean break” is actually avoidance.

How do distinguish?

I came across Jeffrey Young’s book, and it felt like someone was finally speaking about the psyche without fog or mystification. He very practically (!) describes 18 schemas, stable internal conditioning patterns that grow out of early relational experiences, emotional deprivation, shame, unpredictability, pressure, or emptiness. You can spend years in therapy, practice awareness, build insight, and then suddenly one button gets pressed and you are right back in the familiar script. Your body reacts.